from the heart...

...or the groin

1. small penis anxiety
2. forcing unrequieted lust, you might pull a spiritual muscle.
3. Three months engaged and seeing his ex girlfriend - exeng.
4. This 16 year old is in a Mutha of a doozy - and a grandmutha too.
5. Lookin' for love - he sets his eyes to wandering, after making a home in a heart.
6. Abiding by engagement in the face of horny, horny, horny?
7. To love and lose? - a virgin wonders whether she should have sex with an outbound beau.
8. Something Hairy - guy wonders what to do about hairy backed girlfriend
9. Posted Prurience Page - a woman sent a guy a copy of my prurience page and he wondered what that meant and what to do.

Three months engaged and seeing his ex girlfriend.

> > MY EX-GIRLFRIEND AND I ARE SERIOUSLY TALKING AGAIN. WE
> BOTH HAVE FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER, BUT IM ENGAGED. THE GIRL
> IM ENGAGED TO HAS ONLY BEEN MY FIANCE FOR THREE MONTHS. BUT I
> TRULY HAVE MORE GOING FOR ME WITH MY EX-GIRLFRIEND. WHAT SOULD
> I DO?

Slow the fuck down.

Engaged after three months and seeing your ex-girlfriend?

Remember why you guys broke up. Have you really matured enough to head back into things?

Familiarity is comforting. But you will really hate yourself if you ditch your fiance to head back into hell.

Some people are meant to be together - in spite of splits and breakups.

It sounds to me like you need to be alone for a while.

Maybe you should go on a long trip for a long while. Get away from duelling relationships and confusing attraction. Learn to love yourself, and you will be far better equipped to figure out - who do I want to be with?

cuz there is an answer - the answer is you.

best Frank,
Justin

mutha of a doozy

Date: Fri, 21 Jul 95 20:47:07 -0700
Subject: (no subject)

I have been seeing my best friends Grandmother for thirteen months and have recently sleeped with his Mother. This has become a bad situation with both the Mother and the grandmother telling me they love me and want to be with me. How can I get out of this without hurting them and also my best friend. I am 16 and worried. Please help........

dear 16 and worried

Wow. Pretty impressive.

That is quite a briar patch.

I suggest a long trip, remove yourself from the situation - from those two women - for long enough that their desire might cool a bit. From then on, have your friend visit you at your house, and keep an eye on your mother!

If you have been sleeping with both of them you must have some lust in your heart. Ask yourself whether your best friendship is worth the sex relationships with the other women. If you prefer your friend, or you prefer not to be in that situation,

you must not have sex with them again.

If you've decided you really want to "get out of this" you can't lead them to thinking you're involved with them sexually any further. Tell them you just can't do it, and don't do it. Or, go on a long trip.

16, huh? I was a virgin then. You're cutting quite a mean swath! I want to hear where you're at when you are twenty-one.

Let me know how it turns out.

Best of luck,
it sounds like you have a remarkable future ahead of you.
Justin

lookin' for more love

Date: Wed, 15 Mar 95 17:16:35 -800
Subject: advice - looking for love

Justin,

I have a girlfriend who I love very much and plan on marrying.... the problem is that when we are not together I hit on other women... which is dumb because once they get interested in me, I totally avoid them because I could never cheat on my girlfriend. If I keep it up however; I am going to get caught and lose my girlfriend.. help me stop.....!!!

dear help me stop

dude, you gotta help youself. Figure out who you want to be with, and talk to her about it. Maybe you are good at making friends with other women, and that shouldn't bother anyone unless you do something exciting. There's nothing patently wrong with that. It takes two to tango, though, so watch your signals.

On the other hand, if your eyes and mind are constantly roving, you are subverting your own sense of true love. Perhaps you feel trapped by your marriage plans, or by a serious relationship.

Figure out what you want, and if you are truly happy with it, you won't sabotage yourself. If you continue to do so, examine what you are after.

You are supposed to be master of your own ship. Find out what's steering you.

Justin

Horny, Horny, Horniness

Fri, 17 Feb 95 14:40:41 CST

I am completely horny, horny, horny for a girl but she happens to be engaged. Are American engaged babes faithful ? Should I try something anyway and take the risk of joining the Bob Packwood Brokenheart Club ? What would be the chances for a charming latin guy ?
Answer quiclky

Mr. Brokenheart

Mr. Brokenheart -

Engagement is not marriage. It means that two people are beginning to imagine themselves together for a long time to come.

Your horny, horny, horniness is more prone to fleeting.

Does the woman reciprocate? If she does not come readily, then you should ask yourself whether you want to exert effort to strain her relationship over your horniness. If she does come readily, then she has to look at her enagement. Either way, it's a sticky situation.

A charming Latin guy should have no problem finding women to sate his horniness. Ask yourself - do you want her because you can't have her? She may be the hottest woman you've ever met - but I'll tell you now, there's a hotter one out there for you, and she's not engaged!

Justin

To love and lose?

Date: Sun, 29 Jan 1995 17:29:33 -0500
Subject: help

I am involved with this guy. We have been dating for about a month. He is moving in about four months. I think I might fall for him. I am a virgin. I want to sleep with him...but he is moving! I am 19, he is 21. He is a senior, and I am a freshman. He is moving when he graduates in May. HELP.

You've been seeing him for about a month, and you are feeling the pressure to sleep with him already, huh? Ahhh youth. Tough stuff, especially when you are a virgin. The first and foremost thing is that you not feel pressure, from him, or yourself, or anyone else, to sleep with him before you are good and ready.

If you are indeed going to fall for him, sex will indeed aid the process. Especially when you are a virgin. Sex can be transcendant, so if the sex between you is good, it will in all likelyhood bring up some very strong feelings.

The problem is that he's leaving! And he's not leaving for four months! So even if you decide not to have sex with him, you will have this tasty morsel on your hands for weeks! Arrgh!

But if you do decide to have sex with him, and it changes your life (as it surely would) his leaving could be agony.

I serve you a cliche, "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

If you dig him, and he digs you, the sex will probably be good, and could enhance your relationship. I say go for it. But first, look within yourself. Do you think you can handle being connected to him if he is going to leave? If you don't think you can handle his being gone, then you may want to protect yourself. Remember, though, that you are young, and things tend to be less settled, and more transient at the tender age of 19. If you trust him, and you feel ready to have sex, enjoy yourself!

Let me know how it turns out!

Justin

Something Hairy

Date: Tue, 10 Jan 95 21:01:14 -2400

Dear Mr. Advice:

My girlfriend has an exceptionally hairy back. Should I make her shave it, or just rub it off at night with some glue or something.

Thanks,
Shaven in Sf

Shaven -

I take it you didn't know how hairy she was when you commenced your relationship. I also take it that you think she is a great babe.

Relish her hair! Get into it! Seriously dude, a hair fetish will enhance your sex life better then glue.

I must warn you away from making her shave. It could leave her unsure of her body hair. Worst of all, her hair would probably grow back increasingly bristly!

I say attempt to appriciate the whole woman - back hair and all! Let me know how it works out.

Justin

Posted Prurience Page

Date: Wed, 2 Nov 1994 15:05:35 +0700
From: set@ncgr.org (Shahar Tsadeek)

dear justin,

last week a girl mailed me your prurience page. What should I do?

Shahar -

Well, that could mean one of two things. Either you make her think prurient thoughts, or she wants you to go beat off on the web.

I suggest you probe her interest. Don't beat around the bush, dive right in and ask her some penetrating questions!

I want to find out what happens!
Justin

Date: Mon, 28 Nov 1994 21:32:32 +0700
From: set@ncgr.org (Shahar Tsadeek)

Justin,

I am grateful for your concern. Now your sympathy is in order. I have learned what to expect from the kind of girl who sends prurience pages around. Avoid them, I tell you, avoid them!

Shahar

Wow - sounds ominous. Any details you feel comfortable sharing? I want to know what kind of message she was trying to send!

Justin

Date: Tue, 29 Nov 1994 19:58:54 +0700
From: set@ncgr.org (Shahar Tsadeek)

Justin,

you are a dangerous man. Perhaps I'll sue you for damaging my otherwise spotless reputation. On the other hand, you do good work. perhaps I'll hire you instead. Keep dangerous people close, they say.

Your response was well crafted, and its force was not lost on the lady.

But to tell the story simply, there was a slow escalation of e-raunch which finally culminated in some awkwardness about the work place. I am sure that this is increasingly common these days. xhost + peekaboo and all that. On the other hand, there is such a thing as a tease. Shall we examine tease, tickle, tantilize? Mostly sharpening of claws. I don't think there was any *message*, as such.

Nevertheless, your advice, word play aside, is correct. Probe, penetrate, raise the stakes, mount an offensive, toss off inhibition. Seek the kitten in the girl, the man in the woman, the busy, powerful, devouring mind of a woman in her prime. Wounded, bleeding, blue, you never had more fun.

Now I will take this opportunity to thank you for other services. After registering MY domain name, my ambition knows no bounds, and though it isn't "all thanks to you", or anything like that, still your work is appreciated. I note, however, that there is no UFO section? Or did I miss it?

Shahar